while reading the article "putting teen-parent conflicts in perspective," i was amazed at how much it reminded me of my own life. the first thing that i totally related to was when the article said, "it's extremely difficult for parents today to look at a specific problem that they may have with their teenager...without seeing it as a sign of crisis..." my mom is a councler for teenagers with drug problems, so obviously she sees the signs of extreme drug use every day. i do not personally abuse drugs, but my mom is so used to looking for signs of drug use, she analyzes me constantly. for example, freshman and sophomore year, every single day after school, i came home and took a nap because i wasn't used to the tolls of high school. but junior year and this year, instead of napping after school, i go out with my friends mostly every day. but, a couple months ago i was really stressed out with school and work and i wasn't getting enough sleep, so i started napping after school again. my mom of course used her drug councling smarts to see this as a sign of extreme drug use, and started grilling me every time i walked into the house, analyzing every single thing i did and pointing it out as a sign of drug use. i understand that she was just worried about me, but i think that it's ridiculous that she would see me sleeping after school as a sign of drug use. she knows i don't get any sleep so it should make complete sense to her that i want to sleep after a long day of school. taking a nap in the middle of the day is not a sign of crisis, sorry mom.
another thing in my life that relates to the article is how my parents treat me differently because i have an older brother. since my brother messed up a lot when he was my age, my parents decide everything they allow me to do based on what he's done in the past, which i think is so unfair, because i am a completely different person. just because he acted a certain way while doing something doesn't mean if i go out and do that same thing i'm going to act the same way as him. even though we were raised by the same people, that does not make us the same person. i have my own brain.
i know my parents are a lot older than me and have been through a lot more in their lives, but they are who they are today because of the choices and mistakes they made when they were younger. so, instead of trying to protect me by not letting me live and experience things, good or bad, i wish they would just let me make my own mistakes!!
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I agree! It may seem weird, but I wish I my parents would let me make my own mistakes too because that is how I learn. I understand their worry and concern especially with having three teenagers, but I feel like they are constantly following every one of my actions and asking me where I am and who I'm with but it just gets really frustrating sometimes because I've never done anything to lose their trust. I wish sometimes I could just do my own thing without them hassling me about it. I'm a smart kid. I know how to handle myself, and if I make a mistake, I guarantee I will learn from it, but until then, please stop questioning everything I do.
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